Gift Faux Pas: Wedding Gift Amount Deemed Insufficient By Bad-Mannered Bride

Have you heard about the bride who sent one of her wedding guests a Facebook message questioning their gift choice? How offensive. This my friend's is a gift faux pas. Read the article below from The Huffington Post:

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Wow, talk about bad manners! On Friday, we received a truly horrifying email from one of our readers that would make etiquette guru Emily Post turn in her grave. The reader, Tanya, told us about a recent Facebook message she received from a bride after attending her wedding last month. In the message, the bride expressed her dissatisfaction with the $100 wedding gift she received from Tanya and her date. You can read the message for yourself below, but we must warn you: Your blood WILL boil.
Last weekend I attended a wedding of a not-close friend with my boyfriend and as a gift we gave $100 cash. This was generous considering my financial situation. I just finished university with $40,000 in student loans, and have only found part time (12-18 hrs per week) minimum wage. I gave as much as I could and attended to show my support. 

Today I received a rude and condescending message from the bride via Facebook messenger: 

"Hi Tanya, how are you? I just want to know is there any reason or dissatisfaction of Mike's and I wedding that both you and Phil gave 50$ each? In terms of the amount we got from you both was very unexpected as a result we were very much short on paying off the reception because just for the cocktail + reception alone the plate per person is 200$ (as per a normal wedding range with open bar is about) and Mike and I both have already paid for everything else including decor, photography, attire etc and didn't expect we had to cover that huge amount for reception as well. As I know you both live together and work, so I did not see any reason for that amount, when it comes to your wedding hopefully you'll know what I mean. I hope for the best as from what we receive is what we will give back. Anyways, good luck on everything." [all sic]

It's infuriating that she had the nerve to make assumptions about my finances, and assume that I or my boyfriend had an extra $400 lying around. Those $100 were hard-earned and she didn't show an ounce of gratitude for what she did receive. That money didn't grow on a tree. If she had a minimum gift requirement, she should have specified it...or asked everyone for income statements before inviting them.

To hear the advice from HuffPost experts, go here. 

Out the Box: Ivy Robinson

Out the Box is a series on HoneeBee Gifts that focuses on local community notables who share a bit about their gifting life...and a little more. I am excited to share this feature with you and I hope you enjoy this up and personal look at gifting. It's kind of like peeking into someone's closet...but much more fun!



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The Gift: Ivy Robinson
Today we are featuring Ivy Robinson, Owner of Ivy Robinson Events. She is a talented wedding and event planner whose work has been featured locally and nationally including Whose Wedding is it Anyway? and the Style Network. She is a down to earth mover and shaker who plans events like no other. She is a force to be reckoned with....plus, to me (I can't be alone) her career allows her to give clients great gifts (who doesn't want a fab party?!) but let's talk a little bit about her personal gifting life...

The Wrapping: Ivy shares just a bit of her gifting life...
Best gift given: A rescued kitten from the SPCA for my Mom
What's on your gift wish list: A gift card to Y2 Yoga and lululemon
Your most recent shopping splurge: Treating myself to Miraval Resort & Spa after a crazy wedding season

The Bow: Let's peek into the life of Ivy...

On a Saturday afternoon you'd most likely find me...getting a mani/pedi or a massage
Favorite quote...You miss 100% of the shots you never took--Wayne Gretzky
I am most inspired by...different experiences and different cultures through traveling
I'd love to meet...Jackie Onassis

Bzzz...Ivy Robinson Events are creative, modern and fun, just like its owner. Ivy, an innovator in event planning prides herself in really getting to know her clients and making sure their personality shines through during their event, whether it's a Mardi Gras party or their wedding. Be sure to check out their Facebook page and website to learn more about Ivy Robinson Events. Be sure to think of Ivy and her team for your next soiree.